The memory of your trauma or the sadness of losing someone will never go away completely, but it should not remain central to your daily functioning and life. For some, grieving is harder and more complex, which is not a bad thing.
The important thing is to recognize when the grief is too much for you to handle on your own or is becoming increasingly overwhelming. If this is the case, you should seek help from a professional.
Speaking to someone who is trained in grief counseling can help you work through intense emotions and overcome any obstacles you are facing. They can help you work through the complex feelings that are difficult to understand, and help you to realize what you are experiencing in a way that makes sense. The main goals of grief counseling are to identify and express feelings about the trauma and understand one’s own ways of coping. A good therapist helps you to become stronger and more self-aware.
Support groups can also help, as they not only provide you with a trained professional in trauma, but individuals who can identify with your traumatic experience as well.
Seeking help from a professional is not something to be ashamed of. It takes strength to recognize when you need help and allowing yourself to open up to someone.
There are grief counselors and therapy support groups in nearly every city. Links to resources to help find grief support groups and counselors can be found below.
If you know someone who experienced a trauma, you could also try reaching out to them and see if they have recommendations of counselors, therapists, or groups that they may have attended.
It is important to find a specialist that you feel safe, respected, and comfortable with. Finding the right therapist can sometimes be difficult, but trust your instincts. If you don’t feel a sense of safety and comfort after your first sessions, find another one. You should also make sure to check out their experience and credentials before beginning. Experience matters, and many counselors specialize in specific types of trauma, so finding one that is right for you is essential.